Transurfing of Reality: Goals and Doors

In the quest for happiness, many of us find ourselves entangled in the misconception that we must endure hardship, fight battles, and overcome numerous obstacles to claim our rightful place in the world. This belief, perpetuated by external influences—referred to as “pendulums” in the philosophy of Transurfing—can distort our understanding of happiness. Instead of seeing it as a state of being available to us right now, we often perceive it as something we must struggle to attain.

Before we dive in, remember this is not about promoting supernatural ideas. This is simply a way to shift your perspective, to see life in a different, perhaps more beneficial light. By understanding these extremes and seeking a more balanced approach, you can learn to flow with life rather than constantly struggle against it.

Happiness: A Present Reality

According to Transurfing, happiness exists in the present moment, on the current line of life we inhabit. It is not a distant destination we need to reach through a series of trials and tribulations. Instead, it is something we can access here and now, if only we shift our perspective. The twelfth golden rule of Transurfing is clear: happiness comes during the journey to your goal through your door. This means that true joy is found in the process of pursuing what genuinely brings us pleasure and fulfilment, rather than merely at the finish line.

Defining Your Goal

What, then, constitutes your goal? It should be something that ignites your passion and fills you with a sense of joy—an authentic representation of what you desire from life. It is vital to distinguish this genuine goal from the false aspirations often imposed by societal norms and external expectations. To uncover your true goal, you must drop the importance and weight of these external influences. Instead, tune in to your inner voice and listen to what your soul truly desires.

Listening to Your Soul

The journey to discovering your goal involves asking the right questions. What does your soul yearn for? What activities or experiences will turn your life into a joyous celebration? Rather than getting caught up in the prestige or societal approval surrounding certain ambitions, focus solely on the sense of spiritual comfort these pursuits offer. The act of realising your goal should be liberating, not constraining.

The Dangers of False Goals

Transurfing warns against the dangers of pursuing someone else’s goal. When you adopt another person’s ambitions, whether they are cloaked in the allure of fashion, prestige, or societal expectations, you are committing an act of self-violence. Chasing these false goals often leads to struggle and dissatisfaction, rather than fulfilment. They keep the idea of happiness perpetually out of reach, creating an illusion of a future feast that never quite arrives.

The path toward someone else’s goal is fraught with discontent. When we chase external validation or seek to prove ourselves to others, we often end up feeling empty and disappointed. This sense of disillusionment stems from pursuing goals that do not resonate with our true selves.

The Feeling of Soul Discomfort

One of the subtler signs that you are on the wrong path is a feeling of soul discomfort. This sensation can be hard to identify, as it often lurks beneath the surface of optimistic rationalisation. When your mind has convinced you that you are on the right track, but your soul feels heavy or burdened, it is crucial to listen to that discomfort. It is a signal that the goal you are pursuing may not align with your true self.

Breaking Free from Stereotypes

To find your genuine path, you must be willing to break free from the stereotypes and societal pressures that pendulums impose. Setting your mind free from these constraints requires introspection and courage. It is about stripping away the layers of expectation and discovering what truly resonates with you.

In the end, achieving a single main goal aligned with your true self can lead to the fulfilment of all your other desires. By focusing on what truly makes you happy, you create a ripple effect that enhances every aspect of your life. The journey becomes a joyous celebration, and the results often exceed your expectations.